What to Consider Before Moving a Parent in with You

What to Consider Before Moving a Parent in with You

When it comes to healthy aging, quite honestly, there’s a lot to do. You’re supposed to make sure to keep your body active and your brain engaged all while maintaining your social connections as well. Sure, the benefits to your overall well-being are worth the effort, but retirement is supposed to be a time with less responsibility on your plate, right? Well, it turns out that in senior living you can have your cake and eat it too, so to speak. Here’s how programs like our Vivid Life make keeping active, engaged, and connected easy and fun! 

Benefits of Healthy Aging 

Good things happen when you focus on healthy aging. In addition to feeling better overall, which in and of itself is a win, other benefits of keeping active, engaged, and connected include:  

  • Improved ability to do everyday things ​ 
  • Reduced impact of illness and chronic disease​ 
  • Enhanced mobility, flexibility, and balance
  • Improved sleep
  • Increased energy level
  • Reduced feelings of depression and stress
  • Increased feelings of happiness and self-confidence
  • Reduced risk of cognitive decline 
  • Increased mental adaptability and cognitive reserve 
  • Improved memory recall and problem-solving skills 
  • Improved concentration and attention to detail  

How Senior Living Can Help 

At home, particularly when living alone, it can be hard to stay as active, engaged, and connected as you’d like. From lack of opportunity to lack of motivation to lack of transportation to mobility challenges, and more, it’s tough, we get it! That’s why we created the Vivid Life program in our senior living communities. It’s composed of three parts: Vibrant Body, Vibrant Brain, and Vibrant Connections. Here’s what each entails:  

Vibrant Body We offer amenities such as a state-of-the-art fitness center, a pool, walking trails, gardening opportunities, and even a dog park to help you stay active. A sample of activities includes:  

  • Walking club – Daily walks at different outdoor locations using pedometers to measure steps. 
  • Yoga – At least once per week for gentle yoga, and once per week for mindful breathing. 
  • Fitness classes – At least two times per week using a variety of hand weights, resistance bands, and circuit-type exercises. 
  • Tai Chi – At least once per week with a live instructor. 
  • Non-traditional exercise – Dancing, gardening, etc. at least two times per week. 
  • Physical games and sports – Golf, putting, bowling, croquet, bocce, and ping pong available daily with organized events one to two times per week. 

Vibrant Brain We offer monthly calendars filled with classes, events, creative arts, and enrichment opportunities to help keep you engaged. A sample of activities includes: 

  • Visiting lecture series – Twice per month with topics such as cultural, historical, local interest, career-oriented, etc. 
  • Creative art series – At least one per week with a theme that runs 3-6 weeks, such as poetry writing, storytelling, painting, digital photography, etc. 
  • Learning series – At least three times per month with an emphasis on learning something new such as foreign language, sign language, technology, hobbies, etc. 
  • Games – At least one time per week and may include poker, bridge, Scrabble, etc. 
  • Mindfulness – A meditation class once per week and gratitude discussion group twice monthly. 
  • Church service – At least once a week through visits by local churches. 
  • Stress reduction – At least once per month class that offers deep breathing exercises, nature walks, music appreciation, spa-type treatments, etc. 

 Vibrant Connections We offer resident-led clubs, social events, outings and volunteer opportunities for any interest to help you stay connected. A sample of activities includes: 

  • Outings – At least twice per month and may include going to concerts, art shows, museum visits, theatre productions, etc. 
  • Intergenerational programming – At least once per month and focuses on building relationships between young adults/children and residents. 
  • New resident welcome party – At least once per month to formally introduce all new residents, and includes ice breakers, social games, etc. to encourage connection. 
  • Philanthropic program – At least once per month provide residents the opportunity to give back to the community, such as volunteering for a local food bank or pet shelter. 
  • Resident-led clubs – May include game clubs, professional clubs, common interests, etc. that meet at least monthly.  

What’s more, it’s all right outside your door (or transportation is provided offsite) and all in a supportive environment with home maintenance, housekeeping, and restaurant-style dining freeing your time to make it even easier to stay active, engaged, and connected. 

Learn more about Vitality Living’s Vivid Life programs. Or find a Vitality Living community near you today to schedule a tour. 



If you’ve noticed a shift in demographics in your community lately, you aren’t alone. Experts say that 10,000 baby boomers are retiring every day across the U.S. It’s a trend that is predicted to continue through the next decade. As the population of seniors increases, so does the number of family caregivers.

More and more adult children find themselves juggling the care of a parent with the needs of their own family and career. It’s easy to see why family caregivers often contemplate the idea of moving a parent in to their own home.

While it might seem like a great idea, is it really the best solution?

4 Things to Discuss Before Moving a Parent in to Your Home

Before you load up the moving van, here are a few important factors to consider and discuss:

1. Is the senior really safer in your home?

Families often feel their senior loved one will be safer living with them where someone will be around most of the time. But it’s important to take an honest look at your own home and lifestyle.

Think about how much of the time a member of the family is really around. Busy lifestyles might leave the older adult on their own much of the time at your house, too.

Also consider how senior-friendly your home is. Stairs and bathrooms can be especially problematic.

And if you hope to make this move a long-term solution, understand that you might need to make changes to the environment of your house. There are an increasing number of home remodelers who specialize in modifying existing homes to meet the needs of a senior. From widening doorways to installing a step-free shower, it’s important to know what expenses you are likely to incur. 

2. How do other members of the family feel about this idea?

While moving a parent in might be a relief to the weary family caregiver, it’s important to take everyone else’s feelings into consideration as well. Combining two households into one will be a big adjustment for the senior and the rest of the family. Are the relationships strong enough to truly make this a viable option? Or is this something that might cause irreparable damage within the family?

3. Are you willing to give up your privacy?

The loss of privacy can be difficult for couples, the grandkids, and for the senior. Unless your house is set up to allow for an in-law suite or separate living quarters, you’ll likely have to get used to a lot of togetherness.

4. Is there a better long-term solution?

While many adult children want a parent to stay with them on a short-term basis after the death of a spouse or while the senior is recovering from an illness, it might not be the best solution for the long-term.

An older adult might want to stay in their own home and enlist the services of a home care agency to help with the tasks they are struggling to safely complete. Or they might feel more at home in their own assisted living apartment. An assisted living community is often an ideal solution because it combines the independence and privacy a senior desires with the assistance they need.

Moving to a Senior Living Community

If you decide a senior living community is the best solution for your loved one, we have a resource you might find useful. Packing List: What to Pack for Your New Move is a checklist you can download to help make this transition go more smoothly.

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